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Friday, September 5, 2008

Men Explain Why They Have Affairs......

This was shared with me, the title links to the original article. I'm not sure of the validity of these responses, and non of them are true explanations or viable excuses. But they are just a few responses shared so women can see how men think. I'm starting to think we are a little stupid in some areas. Enjoy:

By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: A person asked why men have affairs. When a man drifts, it's all emotion and hormones. We fear getting old. When we come home to wives who are exhausted from work, raising children and doing chores, and who don't have enough energy (understandably) to be attractive to their man, we feel unloved and become susceptible to flirtation. The other woman makes us feel young again.

Most men come to their senses and pray our wives will take us back. In my case, my wife and I made a list of what we need from each other. I keep hers at my desk: a hug once a day, doing something fun together once a week, time with the family. It's not a lot to ask and I happily oblige. Our marriage has never been better.

To women everywhere: Love your man. Put on a negligee. Forgive.

Succinct advice. We heard from hundreds of men and detected a pattern. Read on:

From Denver: I love my wife and children. The problem is sex, plain and simple. My wife is intimate twice a month and lays there like a corpse. I found relief with a woman in my office. The sex is passionate and varied. My greatest regret is that I cannot enjoy these things with my wife.

Illinois: I left my wife after two decades of being shown I was nothing to her. She never made me feel important. When you promise to have a romantic evening, don't bail at the last minute because something else is more important. Your MARRIAGE is most important.

Tulsa, Okla: When I met my wife, she was outgoing and fun. After 10 years, she wants to stay home and watch TV. She has gained an excessive amount of weight. She seldom speaks to me unless it is to order me around. When a young gal paid me some attention, it boosted my self-esteem like you would not believe. I felt someone wanted me. I pursued her and got caught red-handed.

Indiana: I have been married for 20 years. For the past five, my wife says sex once every other month is more than enough. I do the housework so she won't be tired, I put the kids to bed, and I've pleaded with her to see a doctor, to no avail. So I am in the process of finding a woman I can have a physical relationship with.

Missouri: If I express an opinion out loud and my wife isn't there to hear it, am I still wrong? For 40 years, I've been the one who supports the family, cleans the kitchen and does the laundry. Yet all vacation destinations are her choice and all friends we have are hers. Every few months I pay $150 for an hour with someone who takes care of me and doesn't tell me I'm wrong about everything. That hour lifts my self-esteem so I can continue in the marriage.

Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. E-mail your questions to, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, Ill. 60611.


PowderLover said...

This doesn't surprise me and I think the same thing goes for women. When they don't feel appreciated, a little flirting from an attractive guy goes a long way. Marriage is a give and take and both need to make the other feel beautiful and wanted. And women should understand how important sex is to men. If they aren't getting it at home, they will look elsewhere. It's a rare man that doesn't.


Green said...

It is true that it goes for both men and women.

Thanks for the comment.