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Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Your Turn to Decide..

    I'm going to be honest with you. I have nothing to say. That could be a good thing, it could be a bad thing. In my own mind, I have not been given an idea or a topic, so I am blanking.

    Is there anything you would like me to cover? A topic? A question? Anything. Cause today, I am blank. Maybe no one is in need of guidance at this time.

But on some real stuff, on Friday, prepare for a note that is going to blow your mind. I'm having someone else write it, and she has a lot for say about it.

Just a fair warning...this is going to make black people look even worse than they do now in the eyes of America.

So prepare for Friday's blog, also, if you have any topics or questions that you may want me to cover, leave a comment below and I'll give out my knowledge, free of charge.


Monday, July 28, 2008

They Called Me Solomon...Some Still Do....

"5 At Gibeon the LORD appeared to Solomon during the night in a dream, and God said, "Ask for whatever you want me to give you."

 6 Solomon answered, "You have shown great kindness to your servant, my father David, because he was faithful to you and righteous and upright in heart. You have continued this great kindness to him and have given him a son to sit on his throne this very day.
    7 "Now, O LORD my God, you have made your servant king in place of my father David. But I am only a little child and do not know how to carry out my duties. 8 Your servant is here among the people you have chosen, a great people, too numerous to count or number. 9 So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong [wisdom]. For who is able to govern this great people of yours?"
    10 The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for this. 11 So God said to him, "Since you have asked for this and not for long life or wealth for yourself, nor have asked for the death of your enemies but for discernment in administering justice, 12 I will do what you have asked. I will give you a wise and discerning heart, so that there will never have been anyone like you, nor will there ever be. 13 Moreover, I will give you what you have not asked for—both riches and honor—so that in your lifetime you will have no equal among kings. 14 And if you walk in my ways and obey my statutes and commands as David your father did, I will give you a long life." 1 Kings 3:5-14

"The Bible accredits Solomon as the builder of the First Temple in Jerusalem,[3] and portrays him as great in wisdom, wealth, and power. " Read more here: Solomon.


Never Would Have Made It - Marvin Sapp


Friday, July 25, 2008

How To Match Your Soulmate...

    Now that I've killed your hopes of love with Wednesday's blog, I'm going to share a blog with you that was presented to me.  I'm am essentially going copy and paste this.  Upon reading these tips, there is a difference in them fitting your current relationship natural and you MAKING them fit your relationship. Keep an open mind as to what you are doing and really consider what is said in these tips. They can be found on Ariadne Green's Website. Thank her for the words of wisdom. Read the following carefully and see if they apply to your life. DO NOT FORCE these tips to work, either they work or they don't. Be true to yourself, and stop turning a blind eye to truth in order to fulfill your own self interest. Enjoy:

In interviewing over a hundred couples for my new book Divine Complement , I was struck by the similarity in the stories of how soulmates met and the divine creative design that drew them together.   From those still looking for their soulmate I am often asked, "How will I know he or she is "the One"?   Listed here are a dozen characteristics, indicators and clues that he or she is your authentic Divine Complement.   

1. You are magnetic opposites .   It's true! Most soulmates are opposites who complement each other's strengths and masculine and feminine traits.   So if your partner seems stubbornly rational when all you want from him or her is listen to your emotional needs or follow your intuitive lead in making a major decision, you are likely complements who need to apply a balanced approach. The greater function of a soulmate relationship is to mirror each other's less realized and actualized traits and talents and to blend them together into a productive balanced partnership.  

2. Your soulmate is not perfect and has caused you to discard your wish list of ideals.   Your true soulmate may not match your qualifications for the perfect mate or match.   Rather he or she is a 'soul-match', meaning they will help evolve your soul out of its previous conditioning and urge you to perfect the love you were meant to give freely and unconditionally.

3.  A dream may have announced your soulmate's entrance on the stage of life with a loud trumpet call .   Many soulmates dream of each other months or even years before they actually meet.   It seems that they rendezvous in the ethers before the relationship ever lands on earth.   A mysterious dream lover or a stranger who waltzed into a room in your house in a dream, may have alerted you that your soulmate reunion had been divinely planned for the near future.  

4. Magic was afoot the day you met and reached a crescendo in the weeks that followe d .   " It was kismet" sums up the experience and the world around you took on the air of   'somewhere over the rainbow'.   Serendipity and synchronistic signs may have alerted you that he or she was "the one."   "A soulmate awakening" as I coin these experiences reveals a dimension of creativity that is full of magic and meaningful signs to authenticate your soulmate's identity. 

5. You were introduced by a member of your family or a friend.   A large percentage of soulmates are introduced by a friend or family member who innocently played matchmaker, usually without any idea that they were bringing you together for life.   Other souls collaborate with you to make your soulmate dreams come true. 

6. You met at someone else's wedding or in church.   Soulmate meetings are meant to tie the knot with a meaningful event or situation that points you to the profound spiritual connection you share and to the divine nature of the relationship.   

7. A divine spark lit your heart the moment your eyes met. Most soulmates attest it was love at first sight.   Lucille Ball recalled that when she met Desi it wasn't exactly love at first sight.   "It took all of 5 minutes." The divine connection between twin souls creates a synergy that ignites each other's hearts with a powerful love energy--it is spiritual chemistry.  

8. You ran into each other over and over again before you ever dated.   Sometimes the love spark doesn't catch the first time, and soulmates need several encounters before they connect in a more meaningful way.   It may seem like God pushed you together.   The soulmate play on the stage of life may have many scenes and acts before the wedding feast. 

9. Your partner seemed "oh so familiar" even on the first date.   Soulmate relationships are karmic which means you likely spent several lifetimes together.   Your soul remembers their soul intimately even if the details of the past lives are never revealed. 

10. Your relationship presents challenges that seem like unfair spiritual tests.   Your soulmate seems to know what buttons to push to help you let go of the patterns you have outgrown that could sabotage your relationship. Fate may present hurdles that test the love that you have promised each other.   Soulmates are meant to grow spiritually through tests of their love for each other and these tests are never easy. 

11. Your childhood legacy and past relationship experiences contain uncanny parallels.   When you sat down to talk about your family history it is likely that discovered you suffered from some of the same emotional issues growing up or held similar attitudes about one or both of your parents. Your legacy in some ways mirrors your mate's so that you can bond emotionally and serve each other with compassion through the psychological healing process.  

12. You are on the same page with your vision and aspirations for the future.   Generally, soulmates want the same things out of their relationship and of life. Some soulmates have promised to serve the greater good of humanity side-by-side, and will collaborate to contribute something meaningful, such as a book or a humanitarian mission.   Each of you may have arrived with a different piece of the future puzzle and putting them together will give you a clearer picture of your higher purpose together.
    copyright--2006--Ariadne Green

    God bless.

    Wednesday, July 23, 2008

    Is Love Enough? A Review of the Mini-series..

    The past 3 notes, last Wednesday and Friday, and this past Monday, I shared some lyrics from a CD thats been in my car for a while, and I figured I would share some things from it. The CD was "Who Iz Cel-D?' by a friend of mine whom will be known by you as Cel-D. Male or female, you should go here and purchase the CD.

    But the reason I wanted to share those lyrics was because a lot times women have a friend or mother, sister, someone they can go to and get relationship advice that they need, and often as men, we don't feel we have that luxury. So this was kinda that "help" many people may need just to let them know that they aren't the only ones going through what they are going through.

    Sometimes, we need to stop and reevaluate what is really going on in our lives, and if it's what we want. At our age, or younger, we get into relationships thinking, this is what we want...this is going to be my husband, this going to be my wife, etc. But we never take into consideration that if you've been going through an unhealthy relationship, your marriage will be the same, but now you're essentially stuck. Getting a ring, having a ceremony, etc, isn't going to just make everything better, and doesn't change the people within the relationship. Marriage is not a cure-all. Its still the same garbage relationship, you're just bound by the law (and God), that you've chosen to be with the same person forever, the person you couldn't get along with before. The circumstances in the relationship don't change with marriage, you just now have a ring that says you're stuck fighting and unhappy for the rest of your life, unless you want to spend the time and money into a divorce by the time you are 40. Not worth it. Tired of hearing about people by 50 they have gone through 4 divorces because they married for the wrong reasons, or they weren't happy. Get happy first, then get married. Don't expect marriage to make you happy. Doesn't work that way.

    We are young (most of us that read this), be happy NOW. Stop wasting time, trying to work it out. If it's broken, it's broken. Wasting so much time fixing things, when you could be in something that already works.

    Men, you're so stuck on getting a piece of booty, that you will sacrifice happiness for an easy nut. You won't let a woman go, because you are too prideful and don't want to see another man treating her better than you could. You think she'll be all alone an helpless without you. NEWS FLASH: she's lived how many years, successfully without needing you, believe that she can continue without you. If she is 30, and she met you at 25, she did good for 25 years, and you made the last 5 worthless (Women get this in your head. stop letting your man think he is all you have and that you can't do anything without him, and you need to stop thinking it youself. I don't know who is dumber, the man that says his woman is nothing without him, or the woman that believes it). Maybe you're afraid she might become promiscuous and now you have the thought that you may have always been dating a whore and you were the only one that didn't know. Or that someone may have better sex with her than you were able to. Maybe you feel she's the best you can do. Could be you just don't want to see her happy. You've messed up so bad that you're afraid she'll spread your name in the dirt (which is a showing of her character). So stuck on her looks that you don't realize the relationship is worthless. Man up, and be a man, handle your business and grow some balls.

    Women, you get so emotionally attached, that you are often unable to rationally consider what is really going on around you (cheating, disrespect, abuse, arguing, your lack of confidence, maybe your materialism, high maintenance, you blame your past). And no, it's not always the man's fault that things are wrong in the relationship, maybe you don't have yourself together, but you're too prideful to change it, or too afraid to let him go cause you are so "in love". Get out of love, and get real. You are wasting your time and his. But don't be on some stupid either, like Kanye stuck on some "independent shyt, but would trade it all for a husband and some kids". Get off your high horse, humble yourself. Get your life right (cause no women has ALL their stuff together), or be one of those 45 year old women, never married cause you walking around with a chip on your shoulder, PUSHING AWAY every man that encounters you. Missing out on what a good man could be, cause you walking around with too much pride, and more fears than a hypochondriac. And women stop looking for love. Stop going out trying to find a man. You'll find MANY men, but you'll never find that man that wants you, because that man doesn't want to be with a woman that is on a man-hunt. A GOOD man, wants a respectable woman that takes the time to handle her business, and is worried about her own, rather than scoping out males every time she leaves the house. A good man, will come when you aren't looking, because a good man will see that your priorities are in order, and that is the type of woman he wants to be with.

    People use that word "love" as a crutch. As an excuse to keep dealing with mess. Like happiness, anger, or sadness, love is an emotion that doesn't control you, it is controlled by what is happening around you. You can love someone, and not be "in love", you can love a friend, you can love a family member, "love at fight sight"...whatever. Either way it is no excuse for inadequacy or desire to do better.

    Do go back to those 3 notes, reread them, man or woman, apply them to your life, and see what it is YOU need to do to better yourself. Stop thinking something is wrong with everyone around you...something is wrong with YOU! Stop blaming everyone else for your insecurities, unhappiness, pain. You are in control of your life, and if you choose a road that allows such turmoil, you will live in that turmoil. Get real, get right, and grow.

    "However, when you truly find that one made for you, I believe you find a piece of yourself that was put there by God in the creation of your soulmate. It will never become apparent until you find that one and begin to give all of yourself to them. Our society has a thing against submission to another, but Christ himself said the greatest has to be a servant to all. We all want power and authority but fail to realize that that involves the enormous sacrifice of being a slave to all and putting all ideas of self to death. A daunting task, to be sure, but necessary for growth and healthy relationships. It's also the fastest way to learn to love others. So the moral of the story: finding the one does not involve losing your identity, but rather realizing another aspect of it and how the Father"

    **If you can relate to this, or any parts of this, you may want to consider that fact that you could possibly not be in the relationship destined for you. Now you are just merely wasting your time and energy**

    God bless you.

    Monday, July 21, 2008

    2 Good 2 B True...Handle your biz...

    This will be the last track that I share with you from the Cel-D's Album, "Who Iz Cel-D?". This one is: 2 Good 2 B True.  Let it mariante on you and feel it.  Go back to last Wednesday's and Friday's notes to read the other two tracks.  If you want more, you're just going to have to buy the CD yourself. Let's Go.

    [Verse 1]
    Hey girl, you know you have me from the jump. But knowing that, you still left me on slump.
    Why the good dudes always get played for the punk, pray for you all the time and got you everything you want.
    But when it comes to you holding me down you want to front.
    It's like we looked so good on the outside, that it only looked good on the outside.
    Until you started chumping me on the outside, now you in the brick house, and I'm outside.
    And you won't even wave to me outside, you was my coat to keep me warm when I'm outside.
    How my coat turn around and lock me outside? Now, my coats in the house, and I'm outside.
    You gotta know it's real cold on the outside, I see my breathe, it's so cold on the outside.
    My heart was chillin, and you made me bring it ouside, threw it in the mud, ran in the house and locked me outside.

    If it's too good to be true, it usually is, and if it's too bad to be good then handle your biz.
    Ain't too many dudes good at handling his.
    But it's too late to change when you're married with kids.

    [Verse 3]
    This some advice to the dudes, thats stuck in the same mess. Don't stick it out for time, convenience, or the sex.
    You know her family and ya'll real close, but when the Lord speaks out, you gotta listen to the ghost.
    Once you take that job, you can't quit or layoff, if you lose in the season, forget about the playoffs.
    Marriage is full time, ain't no days off, so you better choose someone that you know gonna hold you down.
    Cause when it gets real, you know it's going down. If you want a steak, don't settle for brown round.
    Now I'm all for the grind, and working things out, but 2 years no compromise, homie be out.
    If it's like that now, you figure the rest out.

    That's that there. No such things as being too good to be true, but it can be too good. No reason to not appreciate it.  Like he says, if you're one of God's elite men, don't just deal with "good women" need God's Elite...cause when you going gets tough, being good ain't good enough.
    Yea man...I can dig it.
    Get right, or get left

    Friday, July 18, 2008

    Do Me Right...or I'm Leaving...

    Another track from the "Who iz Cel-D?" Album, by Cel-D, entitled Do Me Right.  Go support. One more track on Monday, if you want more, go buy it.  Also go back to Wednesday's Post and check out "Blame Game".
    Presenting: Do Me Right

    [verse 1] Hey love, you saved and you so fine, you got me hung up like a clothes line.
    Now how I run into that clothes line? Play your position cause I knows mine.
    Give your heart and I'll expose mine. This is more than just some dope lines.
    Them other joints was rehearsal, this is show time. I was on it for a minute, now it's your time.
    My last love was tripping but forgot to pack. Now that's she's gone, she can never come back.
    Cause she ain't pack enough to stay, but anyway,
    the worse thing you can do to a good man is abuse him. He treat you right, you do him wrong, you confuse him.
    He give you everything, you turn around and use him.
    And when you finally escape your fears, you're ready and he's no longer there.
    So if he stay when its just to get even. And before I get there, ma, I'm leaving.

    [chorus 2x] Do me right and get the best of me. Do me wrong and lose what's left of me.
    Cause I'm in it for the long haul. And that don't mean for you to slack off.
    So come close or just back off.

    [partial verse 3] Don't make sense to be praying together, if it ain't meant to be ya'll ain't staying together.
    Force marriage anyway, and ya'll be stressed forever.
    Spent all your time trying to be real deep, you never caught what the Lord cut in your face to see.
    So you pull a "good mate" instead of God's elite.

    Marinate on it, want more, buy the CD here...wait til Monday, 1 more track, and it's a good one...oh yea...

    Wednesday, July 16, 2008

    Blame Game - Not Daddy's Fault that You Aren't Trying....

    This is just a piece from a song called Blame Game by Cel-D on his album "Who Iz Cel-D?" Not the complete song, but a good majority, may be more of a different song, same CD on Friday. I could have put this on my poetry blog, but I felt this was more appropriate. So read, take heed, share if you desire. There may be more stuff like this soon, so keep up, a little mini-series of notes, keep you reading.

    [starting with chorus and second verse]
    Why we can't just be in love, why we gotta play the blame game?
    Love is easy but you make it hard to maintain.
    You suppose to ride with me, why you think your name changed?
    Blame me for your daddy's mistakes, now that's a dang shame.

    Sometimes I would as a people, where would we be if Eve never ate that fruit from the tree.
    And Adam would've been a man and said I asked you to cook.
    While you're over there chillin with the slithery crook.
    That's the power that a woman has over their man.
    When we love them, we'll eat death straight from their hand.
    I heard the sisters say ya'll wanna be a woman easy bake maid
    But when the dude come up short, you wonderfully made.
    And you ain't checking for no man unless you feel that he paid.
    Drive a nice whip and got a 401K. If he ain't got that, then his battleship sank.
    You want a brother thats a steak, when you only a frank.
    With no ketchup and no bun, you just a plain ole frank.
    You want help with your hustle, but won't hustle with your man.
    If he's selling hot dogs, make a sign for his stand, if he working sanitation, help him flip them garbage cans.
    Pray for him, even if you don't understand. Even secular artist learn to cater to their man.
    But you standing at the door with a open hand.

    Why we can't just be in love, why we gotta play the blame game?
    Love is easy but you make it hard to maintain.
    You suppose to ride with me, why you think your name changed?
    Blame me for your daddy's mistakes, now that's a dang shame.

    Now some sister's hear this rap and they mad at the fact,
    that's I'm coming at them hard, all through this whole track.
    But I never said your name, so who's really to blame?
    For the fact that this rap exposed your whole game.
    You got this whole real woman facade down pat,
    But the way you treat a real man is really so whack.
    I ain't leave when you was two, I ain't responsible for that.
    Put your pride to the side, call your dad and holla back.
    I'm an honest man of God, I ain't trying to diss you.
    But your pops probably left your moms for tripping just like you.
    And when he tried to call and talk to you, she wouldn't let him through.
    So you spend the rest of your life, blaming that on dudes.
    As a brother, I never saw my pops, didn't like my mother.
    But that ain't no excuse for me to treat you like them others.
    Never had a blanket, but expected to share my covers.
    Then you start yapping, like ain't no good men out here,
    Cause you done scared them away with all your childhood fears.
    Every good man you meet, you take for a joke. See, I take ya'll so serious, that I take notes.
    Do you know what type of demons ya'll sisters provoke? I don't condone it, but I see why his hands was on your throat.
    His mama hate him, cause he act like his pops. And no you play him, cause you mad at your pops.
    For you, he gave up a rib, look how fast you forgot.

    For sisters and dudes, blaming how they are on their experiences with their parents.You gotta get rid of all that garbage so you can move forward in your relationship, and break all them generational curses....

    Go buy the CD, click here for info.
    Be blessed.

    Monday, July 14, 2008

    When the Time is Right...

    Each and every person can agree with the fact that they are waiting for something, wanting something, or preparing for something. The problem occurs when we want what we THINK we deserve, immediately.  Well I am here to tell you, the time that you want something to happen, may not be the appropriate time for it to happen in your life.

    I think of this on a concept of readiness. For example, many women have this idea that they want the perfect man to walk in to their life by the time they finish reading this blog.  But how can you expect the perfect man, when you are yet to be the perfect woman? You have not gotten your life ready to welcome in the person you desire.

    Maybe it's a new job, or a promotion at your current job.  It's just not your time.  Now I could get religious and say, it's not your will it's God's will, but you know that already. There is a proper time for things to happen in your life, so get faith and patience and allow the things to work in there own time. Else you may create disaster and destroy something that you weren't ready for in your life.


    Friday, July 11, 2008

    It'sa Knocking..

    Often times was are presented with an opportunity, and most of the time we don't take the opportunity. Not because we don't care to, sometimes we don't see the opportunity, and other times we are afraid of what will happen if we take the opportunity. Almost as if we confuse opportunity with risks.

    Some things that present themselves in our lives will be risk, but how can you expect change in your life if you don't take a chance at something different.  Since just before June, I have been presented with a number of opportunities, some that I have taken, some that I have passed up, and others that sounded good, but they were not good for me.

    As I look back, I don't regret any decision that I made, and that should be how it is for everyone. When presented with something, if you feel it is right for you, take it. Whether it is good or bad, it isn't an experience that you may only get to have once, so why not take it and make the most of it.  From personal experience, the opportunities I have taken have lead me to happiness, growth, and understanding, so who am I to complain?

    But look back over some things in your life and see how you were impacted by either taking or not taking an opportunity. Don't regret the choice you made, evaluate what you gained from the situation and how it made you better.

    Take risk, take chances, do something different, but most importantly evaluate opportunities for you never know where they will take you, and passing them up could pass up a great chance in your life.


    (and the new iphone comes out today...go get one)

    Wednesday, July 9, 2008

    Why You Can't Trust People...Homeless People

    So on Monday (July 7) afternoon I left my home, and traveled I-40 West towards Durham, because I needed to go to the South Pointe area.  Well I take the Fayetteville St. exit, get in the left lane, and I wait for the light.  For anyone that has taken that exit, you will see the homeless man with is large, tan dog.  Let me add, his HEALTHY, large, tan dog.

    Well on Monday, something didn't seem right. He was not with the large dog; he had a small, black puppy, you know, for pity points. Like I'm going to give him some cash to feed the little drool-bucket. Honestly I might had, til I realized the puppy was healthy. I'm starving, and this thing is munching on puppy chow like he's eating at a buffet.  But that isn't what got me. 

    When I pulled up to the guy he was hunched over. I wondered, is he in pain? Snorting cocaine? Blowing his nose? NO! This "mother-may-I" was on a cell phone. I nice cell phone at that. With a brown, leather holster on his side that he didn't even try to conceal. Where the freak is he getting the money to pay his monthly bill? Instead of standing on the corner, he needs to use the hot-dang phone and call for help. Something is skeptical with that scenario in my opinion.

    In addition, I was talking a friend about it, and she hit me with this story.
        " A lady had once said she saw a homeless man on the side of the road, doing the 'homeless man limp' (cause you know they teach that at "fake homelessness anonymous"), and said the man looked familiar assuming she had seen him on another corner.  Not the case. This man, with the fake limp, happened to be her husbands co-worker, and never limped before".

    Now ain't that a biscuit and a half. Lying son-of-a-fish. And expect me to give $5, thats a gallon of gas. I'll give him some advice. Find the other homeless man with the cell phone and ya'll can call 1-800-Charter and see what they can do for you.  Join the Army. You ain't cripple, just too lazy to work like the rest of us. Standing in the hot sun, smelling like 95 degrees of Iraq, then gonna walk up to my car. I just washed this white car, and you wanna put your head in, you better eat this Altoid and be happy with life. Matter of fact, just use your finger and brush with a few of them.

    So yea, next time you pull up on a homeless man, ask to use their cell phone and call for help, cause I sure ain't giving them my money. And people ask why I don't help them. Now you see, them lying bastards. Making my city look dirty, sitting on a corner. I can't even tell them to get a job, because that is their job. Acting. They are all actors. Acting like they are homeless. If they wanted real help, he'll use his phone, call a cab and go down to the homeless shelter. Dirtying my street corners, got me afraid to pull up beside them. I wish he would touch my car, he's going to be fake homeless and really handless.

    But that's all I got to say, before I get mad up in here.  Go stand my butt on a corner as a part time job, see where that gets me.  I'm black, I'll get arrested, for "loitering" or "soliciting", if' I'm lucky they will think I'm a homeless prostitute. Idiots.


    Monday, July 7, 2008

    Happy Birthday to Me!!

    So I missed writing a blog on Friday because it was a holiday, so I'm sure none of you would have looked at it anyways.

    But I do want to thank everyone for wishing me a happy 23 birthday, on Saturday, July 5. I had a fun time with everything I did and I am thankful for everyone that took the time out to celebrate with me. Love you all!

    In that friendly type of way.


    Wednesday, July 2, 2008

    Don't Forget to Clean Up

    In this fast paced world we all tend to have fast paced lives in order to do everything we need to in a day.  When work consumes half of your waking hours everything else is crammed into what remains.  

    In those last 8 hours you have tasks. I'm not talking about a "to do" list, but task of life.  But just like tasks on our to do list, we often collect new tasks before completing the older ones.  So this is what I mean by cleaning up. Go back and clean up some of those old tasks in life.

    If there are things in your life that are keeping you from progressing, they are causing unneeded stress, or they are hindering your growth somewhere else, go and clean that mess up.  Don't let old, uncompleted with task mess up the new tasks that you have to complete. 

    This is a short one, just something I thought about...go clean up your life. Handle what's old before moving to what's new, in order to get your focus together, and concentrate on completing the new tasks at hand.


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